The Fix Is In...
My good friend Digital left a comment on my last entry about looking vs. noticing and I couldn't agree more - it's all about having a good time and letting the chips fall where they may - only chumps go looking...I'll leave it at that...
Before getting back to blogging about the women in Anchorage (I have at least one good story left in me) I think I'll blog about a future adventure...you see, as the title says, the fix is in. I've never really been "fixed up" before, but this blog, and my incessant storytelling before this started inspired some Canadian friends of mine to 'hook me up.'
The backstory to this is that my immediate, Canadian supervisor was the perpetual bachelor before he got married very recently. Because of his reputation they attempted to get this girl (no nickname yet) to meet him and while he was very impressed, he was also engaged at the time. He also knew that I was eligible and having trouble (this is shortly after Wasilla Susie) and inquired about this girl for me, but without my knowledge, to his Canadian friend who works with this girl. He then told me the story and was very excited for me to meet her - he is pretty convinced that this will end up being his own e-Harmony story. Evidently she'd had problems finding a nice guy and was taking some crap for it - despite the fact that she was "totally awesome." So I met the Canadian friend of my Canadian supervisor who both agreed that I would be a suitable date for this girl. I merely wanted to have a no-pressure lunch with her, but after a further Canadian lunch (also named for the duration of the lunch - I didn't get a lot of work done that day, but that was okay - I'm being too productive lately anyway) the Canadian friend (not the supervisor - I hope we're all keeping up here) told this girl what was up and that he had a good date for her. She was not turned off and after some scheduling problems we'll probably be having lunch on Tuesday.
I'm not quite sure how I feel about this - there are a few pros and cons going through my head right now...first for the cons...
1.) This reeks of desperation. I can't help but think that my friends feel that I am so inept at the game of dating that i need help. I feel like the dunce in class that's in danger of being held back because of incompetence so he gets a tutor. I temper this thought with the fact that I haven't really had a problem dating or finding women to meet and the problem has rarely been with me (even though I have made a few mistakes). I also temper this with the thought that the word is that she also is very dateable/non-crazy/pretty, but has also had trouble finding nice/normal people.
2.) My cover is completely blown. This started out as a no pressure thing, but then one of the Canadians told this girl what this was all about (in this case fixing her up since she has also been looking) and the no-pressure lunch that might have lead to me getting a phone number has turned into a semi-chaperoned blind date. Luckily she is still keen on meeting me even knowing what the purpose of this lunch was - to fix us both up. To me this just adds pressure to the situation - if we don't hit it off will our respective Canadians be upset? Or worse, will we not hit it off, but feel obligated to go out for awhile anyway because we've both been talked up so much? In any case, we've now been robbed of a more organic experience that would allow us both an option to take things a bit slower (if needed) or allowed one of us to "lemon-law" the other without any judgmental feelings being known.
And as for the pros...
1.) My friends know me pretty well - and an outside perspective is probably good. There's a tendency for people, even me, to go after what we think we might want rather than what we actually need. By having an outsider that knows me evaluate the situation (and not some personality-test questions) and find someone I think I actually have a pretty good chance of meeting a quality person in this situation. It also helps that both Canadians know both of us so it's not just one person validating this romantic hypothesis, but there's two, they're Canadians (did I mention that - Canadians might just end up being a random post of mine), and they can check one another.
2.) Evidently I'm meeting an attractive, nice, intelligent woman that's also interested in me - at least she's interested in meeting a nice, attractive, intelligence man and she thinks I might fit the bill. Add to this that it seems like we're both interested in settling a bit (nothing crazy, dating then a possible relationship, then who knows?).
At the end of the day I'm pretty hopeful, but wary about this whole "fixing up" thing. If if works out I'll never be a naysayer again about fixing up people and I suppose it has a good of a chance than any other option I've tried since I've been here.
As always I'll let you know how it goes, but until then here's to some of my favorite Canadians - The Shat (William Shatner - or Captain Kirk), Mike Myers ("HEAD, MOVE, NOW," bonus points if you can tell me what movie that came from), and Ryan "Van Wilder" Reynolds.
AirForceKush - aka - The Arctic Fox
Before getting back to blogging about the women in Anchorage (I have at least one good story left in me) I think I'll blog about a future adventure...you see, as the title says, the fix is in. I've never really been "fixed up" before, but this blog, and my incessant storytelling before this started inspired some Canadian friends of mine to 'hook me up.'
The backstory to this is that my immediate, Canadian supervisor was the perpetual bachelor before he got married very recently. Because of his reputation they attempted to get this girl (no nickname yet) to meet him and while he was very impressed, he was also engaged at the time. He also knew that I was eligible and having trouble (this is shortly after Wasilla Susie) and inquired about this girl for me, but without my knowledge, to his Canadian friend who works with this girl. He then told me the story and was very excited for me to meet her - he is pretty convinced that this will end up being his own e-Harmony story. Evidently she'd had problems finding a nice guy and was taking some crap for it - despite the fact that she was "totally awesome." So I met the Canadian friend of my Canadian supervisor who both agreed that I would be a suitable date for this girl. I merely wanted to have a no-pressure lunch with her, but after a further Canadian lunch (also named for the duration of the lunch - I didn't get a lot of work done that day, but that was okay - I'm being too productive lately anyway) the Canadian friend (not the supervisor - I hope we're all keeping up here) told this girl what was up and that he had a good date for her. She was not turned off and after some scheduling problems we'll probably be having lunch on Tuesday.
I'm not quite sure how I feel about this - there are a few pros and cons going through my head right now...first for the cons...
1.) This reeks of desperation. I can't help but think that my friends feel that I am so inept at the game of dating that i need help. I feel like the dunce in class that's in danger of being held back because of incompetence so he gets a tutor. I temper this thought with the fact that I haven't really had a problem dating or finding women to meet and the problem has rarely been with me (even though I have made a few mistakes). I also temper this with the thought that the word is that she also is very dateable/non-crazy/pretty, but has also had trouble finding nice/normal people.
2.) My cover is completely blown. This started out as a no pressure thing, but then one of the Canadians told this girl what this was all about (in this case fixing her up since she has also been looking) and the no-pressure lunch that might have lead to me getting a phone number has turned into a semi-chaperoned blind date. Luckily she is still keen on meeting me even knowing what the purpose of this lunch was - to fix us both up. To me this just adds pressure to the situation - if we don't hit it off will our respective Canadians be upset? Or worse, will we not hit it off, but feel obligated to go out for awhile anyway because we've both been talked up so much? In any case, we've now been robbed of a more organic experience that would allow us both an option to take things a bit slower (if needed) or allowed one of us to "lemon-law" the other without any judgmental feelings being known.
And as for the pros...
1.) My friends know me pretty well - and an outside perspective is probably good. There's a tendency for people, even me, to go after what we think we might want rather than what we actually need. By having an outsider that knows me evaluate the situation (and not some personality-test questions) and find someone I think I actually have a pretty good chance of meeting a quality person in this situation. It also helps that both Canadians know both of us so it's not just one person validating this romantic hypothesis, but there's two, they're Canadians (did I mention that - Canadians might just end up being a random post of mine), and they can check one another.
2.) Evidently I'm meeting an attractive, nice, intelligent woman that's also interested in me - at least she's interested in meeting a nice, attractive, intelligence man and she thinks I might fit the bill. Add to this that it seems like we're both interested in settling a bit (nothing crazy, dating then a possible relationship, then who knows?).
At the end of the day I'm pretty hopeful, but wary about this whole "fixing up" thing. If if works out I'll never be a naysayer again about fixing up people and I suppose it has a good of a chance than any other option I've tried since I've been here.
As always I'll let you know how it goes, but until then here's to some of my favorite Canadians - The Shat (William Shatner - or Captain Kirk), Mike Myers ("HEAD, MOVE, NOW," bonus points if you can tell me what movie that came from), and Ryan "Van Wilder" Reynolds.
AirForceKush - aka - The Arctic Fox
So I Married an Axe Murderer. Duh.
"We have a piper down! I repeat, we have a piper down!"
Anyway.
I don't think it reeks of desperation, it just means that you're having trouble meeting someone who isn't either a) a craze-o, b) damaged with baggage, or c) someone who likes to grind against other married men against a mirror. And you're in Anchorage, so no one holds it against you that you can't find normal women. Your odds of finding someone good out on the town aren't that good, so it helps to narrow your pool to give yourself a bit of an advantage. Hopefully the Canadians know this girl well enough to know that she's neither a schitzo nor an insane party girl.